For the forth time in a matter of 3 weeks, I have heard this passage from the bible:
Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
I have heard this by 2 different books, a website and a sermon in the last few weeks. The way it's always been explained is not that you should JUST train a child within the eyes of God on which way you should go but train them by their "bent"...their own personality so that it will be easier to find their way throughout life without having to try to be someone that they are not.
I think this is God's way of telling me that I really need to pay attention to both of my kid's "bent" and train them to the best way they will be able to comprehend and deal with things. Ok God! I got the message now! Ya don't need to smack me upside the back of the head with it! LOL I know I'm a little dense but sheesh!
Little D is very rambunctious. He is the type of child that goes 120% into EVERYTHING! This is my child that rolled over at 3 months old, crawled by 5 months old, cruised around the furniture by 7 1/2 months old and was walking by his first birthday. He will be the one at 6 years old flying off the roof in a wagon with an umbrella as a parachute and think nothing of it...while mommy stands there in complete shock trying to yell NOOOOOOOOO as the blood drains from her face! LD is the child that will fall, say "I'm ok" and get up and play leaving me to find later that his knuckles are bloody but he didn't care. He is the bull in the china shop, no stopping, spinning top, head strong hurricane that I love for all of those reasons.
Princess Grabby Hands has always been a little more cautious and laid back. This is my child that didn't roll over until 7 1/2 months old, waited to crawl until almost 9 months old, cruised around the furniture at 10 1/2 months old and now at almost 14 months old is just getting the gumption up to walk and is still very shaky at it. I don't think it was because she couldn't do these things earlier, she just didn't find any reason to do them. One thing she has done early though is to get that finger pointing and shaking it at people. She started that at 10 months old. I think we are going to be in trouble with little miss sassy pants when she really gets to talking. She is my mellow, content, take your time and enjoy each thing as I go little summer breeze that I love for all of those reasons.
This scripture keeps coming into my life for a very distinct reason. I have two very much ying and yang children. They balance each other out perfectly just like hubby and I do. He is very subdued, somewhat pessimistic, serious and straight forward that keeps me grounded. I am the outgoing, optimistic, silly person that keeps him ready to try new things and just go for it.
My kids need to be raised with the same beliefs, discipline, knowledge and morals but will have to be taught them in different ways. LD may not think twice about the dangers in his life and while I'll have to rein him back, I have to let him make his own mistakes as well. PGH may be the one who is extra cautious that I have to make sure she spreads her wings a little more often without pushing her too far beyond her comfort zone. What may be common sense for one, may not even occur to the other. While LD is socially introverted and prefers to play on his own, PGH is always waving at people and has no problem "flirting" her way into people's hearts with those long eyelashes and sweet smile. They need to know that their is nothing wrong with either personality and they can learn the same things but in different ways. LD will probably keep PGH on her toes while she keeps him grounded. Wouldn't it be funny if they changed up on me and switched gears? They would do that too just to prove me wrong!
I honestly believe in all that we've been through that PGH isn't our blessing as much as she is LD's blessing. God put her in LD's life to be a loving force to be reckoned with. LD cannot ignore PGH no matter how hard he tries. She is the type that will demand to be loved whether he wants to or not. Sounds kind of familiar...I won't mention any names here. They say that parents often have personality conflicts with their children that are the most like them. Let's just say I see a lot of head butting between PGH and mommy in the future!
>>>>Walking away before too many fingers are pointing at me from similarities between PGH and myself!<<<< ****WHISTLING****